44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45 That ye may be the children of your … We love because he first loved us. Though it may overlap with other types of love in some ways, other elements set it … If we love God with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strength, then we won’t allow other things to crowd in. You must be honest because it's right to be honest. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his … You’re not in it for yourself. 8. You must love ultimately because it's lovely to love. For some reason, we’ve told ourselves that love is beautiful, is easy. This is what this text is saying more than anything else. Not loving yourself leads to neediness rather than security, which then leads to infatuation, not love. Unconditional love is a selfless act. When you love someone truly, their needs become your own. And you got to say "But if not." Is it not surprising that the opposite of love in 1 Corinthians 13 is not hate but pride. Being in love with someone makes you want to be around them at all time, so if you get to the point where you want more space than usual, this should be a concern. If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. 1 John 4:19-5:4 ESV / 215 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful. You must be just because it's right to be just. If your sense of security is dependent on the other person, then you are in need rather than in love. Is love ever enough to sustain a happy, healthy, and long-term relationship? So we set ourselves to self-examination and prayer again: O Lord, reveal and destroy … Matthew 5:46 Context. "If you stop laughing and no longer enjoy being around that person, this should raise a red flag," Johns-Carter told INSIDER. So, when we're in love, we want to feel that way forever. God is our priority. Then even more penetrating is the major emphasis on pride. I'm sorry, but it's true. If you treat love as a feeling, when you are getting something from someone else and then you stop getting it then your feelings will change along with your behavior. If you cheat on someone you're dating, you don't love that person. Our love for God is manifested by loving people (Mark 12:31), but we do not love the things of the world. You see, value and deeply connect with the essence of the other person. The main category of what love does not do is arrogance (boasting, seeking its own way). That doesn't mean you don't love the other person anymore, it just means that it's not … Love is an action, not just a feeling. Try to think of love in this way and you won’t go far wrong. 2. That higher than "Cloud 9" feeling goes away after a while. And finally, you must do it because it has gripped you so much that you are … “Earth has nothing I desire besides you” (Psalm 73:25). It’s an undivided love. Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion -- especially when it feels good. This isn't to say that you lose yourself in caring for them. Love is not how you feel, it is more about how you act. 43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But guess what? Because love is not just a feeling—love is an action, a manifestation of emotion, a choice, a moment of faith where we decide, with all of our selves, to be with and for that person no matter what. If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 1.